Valentine’s Day

A few Reminders : They say you can’t give away what you haven’t got.

Expecting LOVE from others when you can’t give it to yourself, is like driving a car without lessons – straight to A&E with codependent concussion.

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WAKE UP! Don’t short change yourself. Learn to LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

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TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS NEVER WORK. Change YOURSELF – Not OTHERS. 

 

Urban LIFECLASS goes to Tallinn. Where’s that then?

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Words : David Parker  9th June 2016 

Not sure where it is? . . .you’re not alone. My first visit was in 2004, invited to bring my work to a country with just one and a quarter million people, drowning in a history of soviet control, alcoholism and the highest HIV rates per head of population anywhere on the globe. When it was part of Soviet Russia, authorities dumped their IV drug users there, and AIDS devastated communities and families during the 80’s and 90’s. Almost every family is touched by the stain of alcoholism, authoritarianism and genetic codependency.

Estonia_flag-5-130x120This will be my 9th Seminar in Estonia since that time, but this weekends 3 Day Event 10,11, 12th June 2016 will be an Intensive called : COME OUT OF THE COMA!  . . .

Co-dependency and Creative Relationships.

Based on the new work we are doing in London with Urban LIFECLASS, ‘Creativity and Creative People’, it’s also the first time we are using this new intimate venue in Tallinn.

Open just 6 months, with a wood burning stove in the group room, we will be able to do BREATHWORK in front of a FIRE, which as purists know, is the perfect arena for spiritual purification.

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Spending meditation time with the Fire, is one way of cleansing thoughts, activities and items. During the 3 days here, as on our Annual Marrakech Maroc Retreat, we hold 3 bags with these words on by the altar : RESENTMENTS – SHAMES – SPIRIT. As the work progresses, the sharing erupts, so does thoughts, feelings and experiences we wish to complete or hand over, by writing on paper scraps then putting into relevant bags. On the last hour we perform a FIRE CEREMONY, to burn away, to replenish, to renew and REBIRTH.

Estonia_flag-5-130x120Feedback from a previous Seminar  “Thank you so much for your admirable work David & I did enjoy your course a lot. I happened to come to this COME OUT OF THE COMA co-dependency weekend accidentally (I thought that it would be just breathwork) and learned at the course that it is co-dependency which is actually my basic problem. On the second breathing session I experienced “my voice “, great forgiveness to my mother and after that there was ULTIMATE HEAVEN, a point of dissolving into the Oneness, JOY and ECSTASY. It was so powerful that I did not want to come back to earth. ” / Katrin – Estonia

https://rebirthyourlife.me/come-out-of-the-coma/

 

 

November Breathes GO with a BANG!

470px-Spectators_watching_fireworks_display_from_Flickr_user_KSDigitalAfter the two OCTOBER Breathing Groups the first NOVEMBER evening BREATHWORK Group on THURSDAY 12th November is now FULL. 

The second gathering of only 5 people is on TUESDAY NOVEMBER 24th and 3 peeps have booked already so BOOK NOW.

People have asked for a weekday evening slot to experience Breathwork for the first time or maintain what they have achieved already, so I have created some intimate COACHING/BREATHWORK groups for max of 5 people with a CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY theme. Each 3 hour group session is £30, no more than an evening out these days, but you will feel better for it, working on yourself, instead of working up worry, tension, projection or getting wasted. All for less than £8 a week!

I use my own home, my own *womb space* as many have called it, and all monies go to the Urban LIFECLASS pot to bursary our assistants to attend January’s MAROC Retreat in Marrakech.

photo 2The first 90 mins is taken up with Codependency Coaching in some form, followed by ONE HOURS BREATHWORK that puts you into a total space of relaxation and altered states of consciousness. The remainder brings you down, back into your body, leaving you rejuvenated ready to MOVE FORWARD. It is suggested to do ONE GROUP A MONTH ( a Tuesday or Thursday ) or both if you prefer. This space gives you a chance to get back on track with feelings, emotions and solutions to life problems that appear from nowhere.

VENUE : Euston/Mornington Crescent – EACH SESSION Needs to be BOOKED in ADVANCE to secure a space and if you can’t make it you still need to pay, if we can’t get someone to fill your space.

10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_nPaypal to codacoach@yahoo.co.uk  Contact David 020 7388 3109 or codacoach@yahoo.co.uk to arrange payment. More info on the power of Coaching/Breathwork is here : http://rebirthyourlife.me/rebirthing/

Individual 121 Sessions : £120 / 2 hours, £150 / 3 hours https://urbanlifeclass.me/the-creative-collective/parker/

Evening October POP-UP-Breathes in Central London. Thursday October 15th & Tuesday 27th 7-10pm

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People have asked for a weekday evening slot to experience Breathwork for the first time or maintain what they have achieved already, so I have created some small intimate COACHING/BREATHWORK groups for max of 5 people with a CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY theme. Each 3 hour group session is £30, no more than an evening out these days, but you will feel better for it, working on yourself, instead of working up worry, tension, projection or getting wasted. All for less than £8 a week!

I use my own home, my own *womb space* as many have called it, and all monies go to the Urban LIFECLASS pot to bursary our assistants to attend January’s MAROC Retreat in Marrakech.

The first 90 mins is taken up with Codependency Coaching in some form, followed by ONE HOURS BREATHWORK that puts you into a total space of relaxation and altered states of consciousness. The remainder brings you down, back into your body, leaving you rejuvenated ready to MOVE FORWARD. It is suggested to do ONE GROUP A MONTH ( a Tuesday or Thursday ) or both if you prefer. This space gives you a chance to get back on track with feelings, emotions and solutions to life problems that appear from nowhere.

VENUE : Euston/Mornington Crescent – EACH SESSION Needs to be BOOKED in ADVANCE to secure a space. 10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_nPaypal to codacoach@yahoo.co.uk

Contact David 020 7388 3109 or codacoach@yahoo.co.uk to arrange payment. 

Future Dates : NOVEMBER : Thursday 12th & Tuesday 24th

More info on the power of Coaching/Breathwork is here : http://rebirthyourlife.me/rebirthing/ Individual 121 Sessions : £120 / 2 hours, £150 / 3 hours https://urbanlifeclass.me/the-creative-collective/parker/

One Day Rebirthing Seminar Sunday April 12th 12.15pm – 8pm EUSTON £70/50 : Spirituality, Denial, Deceptions & Double Messages.

“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

DENIAL

WE ARE ALL ARTISTS, even CON ARTISTS.

Many think they are a FRAUD. In what they produce and who they are.

It’s easy to think that we are not creative, not artistic, yet ironically capable of creating inertia, chaos living, procrastination or double messages in our lives. Using THE ARTISTS WAY we will focus on SETTING BOUNDARIES, surveying our current surroundings, focusing on perceptions regarding environments, colleagues and self with an eye to your best interests, not just serving others. Many of us grew up in a home environment of DOUBLE MESSAGES, where love also meant violence, verbal put downs and abuses. We still deliver those memes of misunderstanding to ourselves partners and friends. Feel them, Claim them, DUMP THEM.

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Getting REAL about ourselves is not first on our *to do* list, I’m sure, but being honest about our work, our perceptions and dreams is the FIRST STEP to INTERNAL HARMONY. Writing, verbalising and getting it out there, even if solution appears distant, is vital. Then as we do at the end of each SUNDAY BREATHWORK SEMINAR, handing our minds, body, and spirit over to 1 hours Breathwork, creating altered states of consciousness ( Trippy without being Hippy ) with resultant clarity, serenity and replenishment. https://urbanlifeclass.me/rebirthingthe-love-drug/

**NEW VENUE : https://urbanlifeclass.me/2015/03/20/our-first-year-and-a-new-place-to-play-in-london-2015-euston/

The Lecture Room : The Place, 16 Flaxman Terrace, London WC1H 9AT

imagesWell served with numerous tube lines, close to Kings Cross & Euston Main Line Stations, even Paris & Belgium, as EUROSTAR is across the road, so even those folks in Kent can get to us direct in a short time. Registration starts at 12.15 pm ( but many of us meet up before for breakfast somewhere – details coming on that one ). We break for lunch at 3pm for an hour, then continue till 8pm, giving time for peeps to travel afar, take dinner with friends or go home at a reasonable time and relax.

We are not part of THE PLACE programming or have any attachment to their activities, we are simply hiring The Lecture Room, so please do not contact them. They have given us permission to show you their logo, but it will not appear on any of our future promotional material, as their terms and conditions dictate. The room IS smaller than The Light Centre in Victoria ( but just as expensive I might add ) but we will have comfortable chairs to sit on as well as yoga mats.

WELCOME if you are new to Personal Development, Groupwork or Breathwork. We don’t do special languages, New Age stuff or talking sticks. Other groups do those things so much better than us. We are just a bunch of creative people willing to change habits, addictions and depleting toxic relationships from our lives. If you are new, one of our team can contact you if you wish to answer questions. We don’t sell anything, or sign anyone up, we leave the choice up to you. You don’t need to be Creative, just willing to check out your life and how you can change the impact of all your relationships.

10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_n£70 for the whole day including a GROUP REBIRTH SESSION ( Some concessions are available for £50 if you are already on the DIY or our concession list ) Delayed/part payment will be individually considered.

Paypal to codacoach@yahoo.co.uk BOOKING : Contact Robert Beck urbanlifeclass@gmail.com (+44) 7913862492 for payment options.

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January Maroc Spiritual Retreat a HUGE success for ALL. So we are doing it all again next year.

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Blog by David Parker Co-Founder of URBAN LIFECLASS

In January last year, 2014, Breathwork Trainer Meleeshka, who I’ve known for 25 years, spent a week with me at my favourite 4* Hotel Les Borj de la Kasbah, in Marrakech Morocco. While I had visited it over a dozen times when leading Breathwork Seminars in Morocco a few years back, Mel who had not visited Marrakech since the early 70’s, said sitting by the pool “Why don’t we do a Spiritual Retreat here next January and bring people from the UK, focusing on Abundance, Forgiveness & Self Care?”. So we did.

To many the idea of a Spiritual Retreat brings up thoughts of early morning starts, sacrifice, scarcity, bleak surroundings and trial, so we decided to challenge this concept by focussing on the opposite : Abundance, Effortless Accomplishment, Self Nurturing, Emotional Support and Playfullness. It WORKED!

1663924_114_yYou can tell the success of any workshop, seminar or retreat by the thoughts, decisions and actions that follow it. Many have experienced the high of reading a book on personal growth, but somehow never got round to the exercises, and so it is with weekend seminars and the like. CHANGE sounds like a great idea but actually changing something is more challenging. But on return to the UK, someone from the Retreat ended an unhealthy relationship, another handed their notice in on their unsatisfying job, while others made deep external and internal shifts. You can get challenged by one-to-one therapy, or a One Day Seminar but the energy of facing yourself and others over a 5 day Retreat process, really brings out the weeds to be culled. What assisted these results was not just Group Conscious Connected Breathwork every day, but the comfort of the Hotel Spa facilities close at hand. The first 2 days of settling in was supported by group Hammams of 4 people, morning and afternoon, while others were experiencing a Rebirthing Breathwork session, for emotional release – some for the first time. Future participate blogs will elaborate further about the bonding, laughter and cleansing that took place. Keep a look out.

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Each participant was asked to bring something that represented Spirituality, Family or Childhood, plus any book that was influential in Spiritual Growth. These were free to use, pick up, browse or read throughout the 5 day Retreat within a 7 day break in Marrakech, during free time allocated for written work, sun lounging, mint tea gatherings and space to be alone, when and if required. We had no strict schedule, other than starting at 10pm in the group room, after a stunning daily buffet breakfast. No Health Farm diets here : ABUNDANCE was truly the word.

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On the 3rd Day we took a full day trip into the Ourika Valley, up by the Atlas Mountains, where participants breathed for an hour by the rolling river, a CALLING BACK YOUR POWER process of release and forgiveness, where completion exercises were made on paper, then burnt, then ashes thrown in the raging swirl. An emotional experience.  

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On Saturday morning we visited Yves St Laurent’s Majorelle Garden after morning group, where an exercise on LOVE & FORGIVENESS was offered up to be completed during the day, and after lunch on return to the Hotel we had GROUP BREATHWORK, massage treatments and time for sharing our progress and future plans. 

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Day 5, the last Retreat Day was spent COMPLETING with Spa Treatments and GROUP BREATHWORK, then in the evening we arranged a special Moroccan Evening, a 4 Course Meal, Musicians and a Dancer. 

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10959495_10153562977352501_8594844653557046353_nIt was so SUCCESSFUL that we have BOOKED the HOTEL for next year, same time. Tuesday JANUARY 12th 2016 for 7 Nights. 

DO JOIN US!  We are taking BOOKINGS NOW. https://urbanlifeclass.me/contact/

Early bookers get SINGLE ROOMS http://www.lesborjsdelakasbah.com

We ended on the 7th day with morning GROUP, thanking myself & Meleeshka and the glorious Assistants : Dickie Beau, Catherine Hoffmann and Robert Beck, before scouring souks for souvenirs. The 8th day people flew home, while Mel & I relaxed for another 3 days in the Sun & Spa.

A just reward.

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FEEDBACK : 

“Well I can report back that it was one of the most joyous weeks of my life and perfectly placed for the beginning of the year. In fact I would say that a lot of creative planning for the months to come happened without even trying during those days…Onwards with abundance xx ( CH London England )

“What can I say about my time away except that it was deeply needed and I feel profoundly honoured to have been in the company of so many loving souls. It’s been hard to get back to normality especially as I have to say goodbye to one of my oldest friends next week, who passed over, but I now have both the courage and power to do him justice as I say my farewell whilst being strong enough for my God daughter too, and I thank David and Meleeska for love, guidance and respect that they showed me over the last week, for without these things mixed in with the healing power of laughter, I wouldn’t be able to do it!! All my love to you both, always!! XO ( M. Somerset England )

“The retreat in Marrakech was stunning, beautiful beautiful people, amazing location, huge amounts of love and even more compassion, but throw in huge gales of laughter, it was beyond superlatives. All I can say it was the first break I had taken for ten years, and boy it was worth waiting for, the people were and are amazing, the breath work powerful and simply life changing, and the laughs we had still rings in my ears , roll on 2015, best decision I ever made … Thanks David and Mell big love xx ( JD Somerset England )

Coming OUT of Shallow Breathing into FULL SPEED AHEAD

1972351_261858887317309_799607384_nAs with many people who lie down to breathe for the first time, I was filled with a mix of scepticism and uncertainty about what was going to happen. Surely the simple act of breathing couldn’t bring about as strong a reaction as I had been promised? It was difficult not to feel a bit daft as I began to inhale deeply, taking in large amounts of oxygen, and then releasing only a third of my breath, leaving the remaining oxygen to flood my brain and body like water gradually filling a jug.

For about fifteen minutes I lay there, fighting against the urge to regulate my breathing which felt forced and unnatural. How was I going to last another three quarters of an hour breathing like this? Then something strange began to happen. It started slowly and then became more and more noticeable. A tingle in the finger-tips that spread up my arms and washed over my chest which somehow felt lighter and buoyed up, like a freshly inflated balloon. My breathing was also easier despite the fact I had not adjusted my rhythm. Was it actually happening to me; this strange and wonderful sensation that I had been told about but had doubted?

I lay there, excited for what was happening. Outside noises seemed to melt away and I was left completely inside my own body. It was as if my consciousness has retreated inside my brain, no longer aware of what existed beyond the shell of my own skin. It was dark and warm and felt safe. Occasionally, the darkness would be penetrated by a white light or a colour spectrum that seemed to whirl above me, forming shapes and even faces. It was a hugely multi-sensory experience that, when it was over, left me feeling calm and collected, as if I had slept particularly well and all my troubles seemed lessened thanks to how relaxed I found myself.

It was not until some time later, when I was given the chance to assist on someone else’s first breathe, that I was able to witness this ‘tipping point’ and observe how tangible it is. You can physically see the body’s initial resistance to the journey as it reacts against this strange way of breathing. Then as the time passes and breathing in this way becomes more natural and the body is flooded with oxygen and the consciousness begins to retreat in on itself, you can watch as the breather drifts off to a place where they are fully in touch with themselves – a place where you are able to get some perspective on your life and come back fresher and more able to tackle the crap life throws at you. And all from breathing – who’d have thought!

1002087_10152899205155371_2132921410_nWritten by Robert Beck.

https://urbanlifeclass.me/the-creative-collective/robert-beck/