Tales of the Unexpected

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Tales of the Unexpected was a UK 1970’s telly series that was a mustn’t miss weekly event. It told a different story every week and each episode was introduced by Roald Dahl himself sitting in a comfy armchair. Dahl wrote Charlie and The Chocolate Factory, Matilda and other classic children’s books, but also became a master of short stories for adults, most were very dark and had a twist in the tail. And that’s precisely what this series was based on – the UNEXPECTED. 

And so is LIFE.

In mid July I had a few blips going on with my heart, low heart rate mainly, called Bradycardia which needed A&E attention. A need for a pacemaker was discussed but not carried through as more tests were required over a period of time. A week away from August I collapsed at home and ambulanced into a truly unexpected dilemma that was certainly not part of my plan.

I was due to be in Athens early August for starters on a 10 day break. I didn’t make it. Nor the Athens 10 day trip in October. The Universe had other plans.

After a few days of observations, scans, X-rays and the like I was whisked off to Barts Heart Centre in Central/East London for a more detailed angiogram examination where I was told I needed triple heart bypass surgery within 48 hours to avoid heart attack. Thus began almost 3 months of complications, starting with another heart operation 2 weeks after the first. The whole scenario became a lesson in powerlessness, vulnerability, trust and avoidance of projection, keeping it all in the day, hour, minutes. I am only just coming out of it, knowing it will take a while to recover fully and start a 3 month Cardio Rehabilitation Programme next week. Game ON.

Meanwhile in November I will be gradually getting back to clients and small groups which is manageable carefully paced, doctors suggest going back to work or other practices after 3 months, so here I am with clients already on hold booking in. Group dates for Nov, Dec & Jan will be up in a few days.

BESPOKE COACHING & BREATHWORK assists dealing with the unexpected. Coaching can unravel what to do next in emotional circumstances – loss of a job, a sudden health diagnosis, relationship difficulties or compulsive habits of escape – food, booze, recreational drugs or sex addiction. 

SOMATIC EVOLUTIONARY BREATHWORK EXPERIENCE : I have practiced and taught for over 30 years assisting those with trapped emotional trauma, shallow breathing, anxiety, depression and anyone stuck in a rut. Breathwork unblocks thoughts, habits and realities freeing up the body and mind to experience less worry and more joyful conscious living. You deserve it.

So do check out blogs and pages on this site for solutions, and how you can switch from panic REACT to healthily RESPOND to unexpected scenarios, learn how to handle life’s twists and turns more ably. Oh and have regular BP and Heart checks. You never know. 

RELATIONSHIP CLINIC for All Sexualities

Can you imagine what would happen if you drove a car without lessons? . . . straight to A&E no doubt. Yet most people have no training whatsoever in RELATIONSHIPS and expect a glowing result and a healthy outcome, with no training at all. MADNESS.

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If everyone dealt with their codependency issues the world would spin on it’s axis overnight, which is why this is a number one priority for wellness.

Many have also discovered that ditching or being aware of romantic tyranny is a well played lesson to perfect. Divorce and break-up figures suggest that instead of £15,000 average spend on wedding day nuptials, just spending a fraction of this on therapy, relationship counselling and codependency work BEFORE you tie the knot makes common long-term sense. 

Check out elements of this blog site to improve ALL of YOUR RELATIONSHIPS – with people, money, work and work life balance, debt, stress, contentment, depression, joy and ACTION. No day is ever the same, nor are relationships.

No more people-pleasing, needless perfectionism, pointless procrastination and the emotional killer called PROJECTION – companion to anxiety and worry.

BREATHWORK and CODA COACHING will change your life and rebrand your thinking.

In fact REBIRTH YOUR LIFE.

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Adam Spreadbury-Maher shares his thoughts on Breathwork and our Marrakech Retreat 2018.

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Olivier Award Winner Adam Spreadbury-Maher is an Australian/Irish Theatre Artistic Director, Producer and Writer. He is the founding Artistic Director of the Cock Tavern Theatre, OperaUpClose and The Hope Theatre, and is the current artistic director of the Kings Head Theatre, Islington. London.

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“Initially attending a one day Evolutionary Breathwork workshop in Central London, I decided to take the plunge and travel to Marrakech on the week long Breathwork retreat in March that David and his team hold annually. I didn’t know what to expect, though I went along with an open mind and heart.”

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“The week long retreat was co-led with established breath worker Luisa Bradshaw, a partnership that accounts for over 45 years combined experience, buckets of empathy and good humour, and I felt ‘emotionally safe’ from the start.

Based at a beautiful and comfortable 4-star riad-style hotel, just off the beaten track and hustle and bustle of the main square, in the Kasbah medina, our group was gently eased into the course with care and compassion over the first 2 days in the hotel with hammam, steamed, washed, scrubbed and relaxed in the Spa plus daily group breathwork for emotional and body release.”

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“The schedule had plenty of time for us to spend together socialising at meals or relaxing by the pool, alone in solitude and reflection, plus visits to some of Marrakesh’s most exquisite gardens. The day trip to the Ourika Valley at the foot of the Atlas Mountains was a particular highlight for me, along with silent walks in the stunning Anima Garden en route in the morning.”

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“Throughout the week, not only was I able to spend sometime focussing on a cleaner and better relationship with myself, I was also able to make new friends and deepen existing relationships.

This is breathwork for today’s pragmatic realistic, who is happy to dodge the crystals and dolphin music; it’s effective, self-led ( yet supported and guided ) self growth therapeutic practice.

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Quite unexpectantly, Conscious Connected Breathwork with David Parker has had a hugely positive impact on my life and well being. I recommend David, Luisa and their team unreservedly, in fact . . . I’ve already signed up for next year!”

 

Adam Spreadbury-Maher

 

Scott Buchan lives to tell the tale of regular Conscious Connected Breathwork, commitment and deserved results! Worked it.

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November 2010 in Brighton is where I first met David Parker, when he was speaking at a Convention I was attending. The Convention and his topic had nothing to do with breathwork but as time has passed, the link between then and now has become more obvious.

Our paths crossed a number of times in the next couple of years randomly bumping into each other here and there and we connected on social media. It was then I started to read David’s story and what he did/does regarding breathwork. I was nosey rather than curious and didn’t look too much further into it. In the autumn of 2013, my wife and I went to Malta where I had been asked to speak at one of them Conventions where I first met David and lo and behold, David was there. One of those ‘coincidences’.

We spent a lot of time in each other’s company in that week and I started to ask a few more questions about this thing he did. My interest had moved on from curiosity to intrigue and I started to think I wanted to know more and perhaps experience what it was this breathwork was all about.

emoji-56-512I had my own ‘issues’. I’ve been in recovery from active addiction since June 2009 with which I had been battling with for 30 years and I had a lot of consequences none more so than my physical state. I’ve been in a coma twice, I’d had a stroke, I’d had the Last Rites read over me, I’d had pancreatitis on a number of occasions, I’d broken near enough every bone in my body, my right lung had collapsed twice and this was before I got into recovery.

emoji-56-512Since getting clean of all drugs, including alcohol, I then had testicular cancer, I’d had a shoulder reconstruction and in 2014, I underwent 4 surgeries on my knees culminating in a full left knee replacement AND to add to the fun, I’d suffered a burst appendix in the summer of 2014 which I was lucky to survive.

emoji-56-512I had also put on a lot of weight as I had been unhappily comfort-eating and although I’m 6ft 5, I was within touch of 20 stone on the scales. I was also in and out of employment and hadn’t held down a regular job for years.

The experiences of 2014 were enough for me to want to change a few things. I needed a different way of seeing myself. My physical health (or lack of it) had become my identity. The first thing people would say to me was, “…and how’s the health, Scott?”

18581901_10155136311290498_8333475731833275017_n-1images-1I spoke to David once or twice around this time and he said about coming along to one of the seminars he was getting up and running in Victoria. I went along open-minded and with no expectation on what was going to happen.

It ended up being one of the most extraordinary moments in my life.

I still can’t explain exactly what happened but I had an ‘out of body’ experience during my first ever breathe. I cried like I hadn’t cried since I was a baby. I felt all this physical pain fill up inside me, overwhelm me and somehow drain from me. I curled up in a foetal ball, I shook, I sobbed, I made a hell of a noise and I was looked after tenderly by David and the team and I felt, without being too dramatic, reborn afterwards.

I left the seminar, got a train from Victoria to Clapham Junction then another train to Basingstoke and then a taxi home and it was only when I put the key in my front door I suddenly realised I was home! I’d done the whole journey in a trance and couldn’t recall a thing about it.

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My thinking DID change from that minute on. I decided my health was NOT going to be my identity. I looked at my diet. I looked at my exercise (or lack of it). I looked at my attitude. I looked at certain people, certain places and certain behaviours and I did a full-on spring clean. I didn’t fall out with people as much as I stopped falling in with them to begin with. I began to keep my counsel smaller and closer and started to look at what was important to me and what I wanted to achieve from my life.

images-1I became a regular ‘breather’ and I’ve been attending groups and seminars with David more or less monthly ever since that first experience. I travel all the way from Basingstoke Hampshire to London Camden and back for every session. It’s a 3 hour round trip on public transport, it’s the best part of £40 in fares and that doesn’t phase me in the slightest. Nor does the fact I get home at midnight and I’m up at 5.30 the following day for work.

The breathwork and the coaching sessions prior to breathing have become an integral part of my continuing recovery. I’ve learnt a lot about me, what makes me tick, what fires me up and acquired great techniques to deal with life and what can crop up for me on a regular basis.

3½ years on from that first breathwork experience, I am now in the best physical shape I’ve been in since I was at school. I’m down to a manageable 16½ stone, my diet is unrecognisable from a few years ago, I walk 30-40 miles a week, I’m all clear on every physical front and had a Well Man check a couple of months back and was told I had the physical attributes of someone 10 years younger than myself.

I’ve been in full time work since the summer of 2015 and this is the longest tenure I’ve had with one employer ever.

29356476_10156025644040498_8672189542205227008_nHowever, life comes along unexpectantly and I had a major accident last year when I was hit by a bus and I broke my pelvis and sacrum and was off work for almost 5 months. Albeit, I was in a lot of pain, I didn’t take any medication.

I stuck to the principles of my recovery programme and I used what I’d learned from David to work through not only the physical condition but through the emotional and mental effect this accident had on me. It would have been very easy to revert to self-pity and wallow in it all but none of that behaviour serves me anymore.

There has been further pro’s to the breathwork. Pro’s that are completely unexpected and quite random. I have to undergo regular gastroscopy due to my various conditions over the years and this used to be time of extreme anxiety event whereupon I had to be sedated and it was quite traumatic for a few days afterwards. I now find this procedure, although still very intrusive, nowhere like that today be and I can breathe right through it even when I get a gagging reflex. Given this is something I have to undergo regularly, the fact I can manage it with breathing techniques is an amazing turnaround.

images-1I’m also a good swimmer. I always have been BUT I’ve always struggled with snorkelling and the like as I could never get my head around breathing while underwater. I can swim underwater but not to observe and enjoy marine life.

During a boat trip in Thailand in 2016, I thought I’d put on a snorkel and found I actually could now breathe and without panicking. I could see the life beneath the waves and love this new-found thrill. Since then I’ve become more and more adept and snorkelling is something I enjoy on our regular jaunts overseas.

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I’m now back at work, I’ve recently been upgraded with a view to a promotion and I like my job. I like my life and I owe a substantial debt of gratitude to what David has taught me, shown me and helped me with over the past few years. 

Today, I’m very much more the me I always could be.

I’m a good husband, son, brother, friend, employee. I like me and that’s something I never thought I’d hear myself say. Thank you, David, for your continued help, support, encouragement and “…breeeeathe, Scott, breeeeathe!”

Mo Haque ‘Cancer Recoverer’, rates Breathwork as a regular practice for healing and emotional release.

Mo Haque returns to ITV London News 18 months after crowdfunding for immunotherapy cancer treatment, sharing his incredible progress. He also shares an exclusive cover for his book ‘Choosing To Stay: How Cancer Gave Me My Life Back’ – For more information about the book visit https://mohaque.com

Mo Haque writes 

I began Evolutionary ‘Rebirthing’ Breathwork for the first time in March 2016, a time when my terminal cancer was growing and spreading, a time when the NHS decided against funding a breakthrough immunotherapy treatment for me.

Fundraising a total of £200,000 was a daunting prospect, yet it was my last resort to give myself a chance to live. With help from family, friends and strangers, we raised close to £190,000 allowing me to have a year of immunotherapy treatment. My tumours have subsequently reduced and 6 months on from stopping the treatment (May 2017), the tumours have been stable thankfully.

David Parker’s UrbanLIFECLASS breathwork groups have been an integral part of the process for me. I have been attending every single month which allows me to explore themes that I have been suppressing over the years, whilst learning and integrating new behaviours. Behaviours such as asking for help, receiving help, saying no, establishing and maintaining boundaries.

The sessions also allow me to make sense and feel the emotion from my most recent struggles and release any build up, as and when they occur. They also allow me to acknowledge my successes and encourage me to remember to do things I enjoy even if that means ‘doing nothing’, rather to purely just be. But perhaps more crucial is the learning that I get from hearing other peoples shares.

With individual work with David, I have also found that my creativity has flourished and opportunities continue to open up, since attending regular sessions, like writing my book; Choosing To Stay: How Cancer Gave Me My Life Back, published in the forthcoming year 2018.

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I have spoken in Parliament, been on TV several times and being invited to speak on various stages to share my story. I have also been getting involved with different cancer communities and charities contributing to publications, policy documents as well as attending Government meetings.

I continue to take one day at a time, whilst holding an intention to serve and share. The breathwork is a reminder to stay present and live in the moment whilst being mindful of the 4 P’s of destruction; Procrastination, Perfectionism, Projection and People-pleasing.

Breathwork practice has become a staple part of my monthly self care. 

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Two of our Breathwork Group Members raise a QUARTER of a MILLION pounds between them! Inspiration and ACTION is the core of our group philosophy.

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Yes, you read that RIGHT. Over £250,000 between them. ( 307,384.99 USD ).

Simon McDermott ( above ) and Mo Haque ( below ) have hit global headlines around their respective ventures, one was planned to save his life – the other went ballistic! Mo came to group in the middle of a health crisis, as the NHS would not fund a new cancer drug costing £200,000, so with the help of his friends set up a JUST GIVING page.

Mo writes :  “The most recent Evolutionary ‘Rebirthing’ Breathwork group session I attended included a discussion with the theme ‘ASKING FOR HELP’. Particularly pertinent for me in the context that I had the week before launched a crowdfunding campaign to raise £200,000 for a cancer treatment unavailable on the NHS. A campaign whereby I am required to ask for an abundance of help. The discussion was most beneficial, as I began questioning reasons for me not asking for help over the years. Ego and pride came to mind.

14095701_10157339924515274_5302703087792934355_nMy situation right now is critical. Diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer 18 months ago, I have exhausted all standard NHS treatment. 18 cycles of chemotherapy and one major operation. I even tried a phase 1 trial drug, the 24th person in the UK to be given these tablets. My cancer however continues to grow. Due to the genetic nature of my cancer Lynch Syndrome/mis match repair/ RAS mutation, THERE IS HOPE”.

I have experienced 8 rebirthing sessions to date this year, and each time the feeling I get is one of pureness. After a breathe it feels like my insides have been cleansed, this emotional detox is needed right now, to manage my mental, spiritual and physical condition.”

To date Mo has raised over £130,000 through ACTION required promoting his cause, travelling to mosques, Bangladeshi UK functions, TV studios and The Houses Of Parliament. His treatment has started and here are THE AMAZING RESULTS  : 14433142_571528853027766_867746530658013829_n

CHECK OUT HOW HIS TUMOUR’S HAVE SHRUNK after just 5 doses -on the Right Hand panel !

Mo’s story also went viral on global social media. Urban LIFECLASS backs #TeamMo    http://teammo.co.uk

Simon, a regular group member, ( and we only have a pool of 25 people for 15 places each month ) shared that he wanted to raise £1,000 for the UK Alzheimer’s Society in thanks for the way they had helped him deal with his Dad Ted McDermott. IT WENT VIRAL & the rest is History, Simon has raised over £130,000 – making Simon & Mo DOUBLE WINNERS!

Si says : “I joined David’s Breathwork group in December last year. I was going through a difficult time due to a number of personal issues. Breathwork was completely new to me. I knew David did Breathwork Groups for years but if I am honest I was completely skeptical about it – however, my views on it have turned full circle.
Without wanting to sound a cheesefest, I find breathwork has been useful in helping me reconnect with myself in new ways, helping me reformulate my sense of self and clear out negative thoughts that we sometimes put upon ourselves.

My confidence has increased ten-fold and I have needed it to deal with media and public response to THE SONG A MINUTE MAN Campaign and Dad’s Record Deal. Above all else, it can actually be quite fun. Post-breathwork group discussions are insightful and often quite a laugh. The best thing I’ve done.”

So you see our group offers Inspiration, supports ACTION and Service. Do Join us. You can read Simons story, listen to his You Tube Vids and donate all here :

THE SONGAMINUTE MAN – https://www.facebook.com/songaminute/

http://www.itv.com/news/granada/update/2016-08-05/heartwarming-video-of-dad-and-son-singing-goes-viral/

Simon’s You Tube Channel – The Songaminute Man https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6tmams7km6i0O9m9m3MP0Q

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and lastly a message of Hope from MO – Don’t give up before the Miracle.

https://www.facebook.com/keepinghopeformo

Asking For Help!

 

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Mo Haque, an Urban LIFECLASS regular needs to PUT A SHOUT OUT!

MH – The most recent Evolutionary ‘Rebirthing’ Breathwork group session I attended included a discussion with the theme ‘ASKING FOR HELP’. Particularly pertinent for me in the context that I had the week before launched a crowdfunding campaign to raise £200,000 for a cancer treatment unavailable on the NHS. A campaign whereby I am required to ask for an abundance of help. The discussion was most beneficial, as I began questioning reasons for me not asking for help over the years.

Ego and pride came to mind. 

My situation right now is critical. Diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer 18 months ago, I have exhausted all standard NHS treatment. 18 cycles of chemotherapy and one major operation. I even tried a phase 1 trial drug, the 24th person in the UK to be given these tablets. My cancer however continues to grow. Due to the genetic nature of my cancer Lynch Syndrome/mis match repair/ RAS mutation, THERE IS HOPE”.

images-1I have experienced 4 rebirthing sessions to date this year, and each time the feeling I get is one of pureness. After a breathe it feels like my insides have been cleansed, there is a softness within each organ of my body, as if I am breathing for the first time without the polluted air. This emotional detox is needed right now, to manage my mental, spiritual and physical condition.

DP – I’ve known Mo since he was 15, working in the local newsagent, he is now 33 and over the years developed an interest in personal growth, spirituality, relationship awareness and Deepak Chopra. We would often bump into each other in the street, giving me updates on personal development seminars he was taking. Then this year he re-found me, this time on the internet, discovering I had stopped travelling and started doing London Groupwork again, involving Rebirthing Breathwork and Coaching, so he came along. He also brought me and the group up to date on his Health Crisis, as he explains below.  

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MH – We hear about breakthrough cancer drugs almost every other day on the news, and in my case an immunotherapy treatment offers over 70% response rate for the specifics of my cancer. This treatment is unavailable on the NHS and extremely expensive. Each dosage being approximately £10,000 with a dose required every 3 weeks, easily close to £200,000 for a years treatment. As such the only way for me to pay for it is to crowd fund and ask for help.

But with my pride and ego in the way, the task is doubly difficult.

IMG_9376The shifts that took place following the rebirth group breathing and discussion were quite profound. Thoughts around my self worth and being deserving of help unconditionally, became pre-eminent. 

Do I allow my ego and pride get in the way of my health? I accepted that I am a child of the universe. I am connected to everyone else. I am by default naturally deserving of the life force that surrounds and connects us all. I then resolved to embrace the love and support already around me and put myself out there and ASK FOR MORE OF IT.

All I can do each day is my best. Acknowledging that my best today might not be the same level tomorrow, and all I can ask from my friends, family, and those I don’t know, is to help in whatever form they can.

A friend suggested I should set up a crowdfunding page, so I did, having no expectations as to what would happen. What I learnt from group is that asking for help isn’t as painful as I had imagined and now I have gone beyond just the crowd funding page asking for donations in private Facebook groups, telling my story in mosques, and asking for help within the commercial medical community.

images-1IN JUST 2 WEEKS THE RESULT HAS BEEN  PHENOMENAL bringing in a total of £30,000 ( crowdfunding and other donations ) which means I can start the treatment as early as June but I still need continued funding to complete a years treatment. So my practice of asking for help continues”.

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DP – So there you are – If you can contribute something to Mo’s link below (the majority of contributions are between £5 and £20) which means a lot of people are behind him to beat the condition within his body that he is determined to overcome. #TOGETHERweWIN – PLEASE HELP in posting on all avenues of social media this page and links below. Many Thanks. Mo & David #BREATHE #GRATITUDE

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MO’s Facebook Blog UPDATE Page  https://www.facebook.com/keepinghopeformo