Christine reviews our London One Day Seminar ‘Home Alone’.

11880350_10207426035507425_5702309674236068765_nDavid Parker has been my codependency-release therapist via SKYPE since February this year and without him I wouldn’t be where I am right now – a place called recovery. A place I had no awareness of before I met him.

At the point I contacted him I was lost, confused, emotionally numb and had been so beaten down mentally that to say my life had become unmanageable was a severe understatement. As the months passed by I built up a strong connection with this humble man who helped me to start to see some light through the intensity of the thorn bushes I was totally enmeshed in.

Despite being on my uppers and broke, I took the decision to travel to London from my hometown Manchester to attend his codependency workshop – ‘Home Alone’ – because of this strong bond I had built with him. All my sessions with David had previously been on Skype so I was so excited to meet him in person and I can only say it was a privilege and extreme pleasure to have the honour to be coached by him to this point and to attend this workshop for a full day.

The whole experience was incredible and professional. On the journey to the venue I was filled with excitement and on meeting him and his team it only confirmed to me even more that I won’t find a better equipped therapist on codependency than David. His knowledge is vast and his attitude, HUMBLE.

Plus his Urban LIFECLASS assistants are kind, on the ball, experienced and knowledgeable. I learnt a great deal on this workshop, about myself, about the others who attended and it helped me understand what I had been through and also that I am not the only one experiencing codependency issues that plague adult relationships.

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The last part of the day was the breath works session, it’s new to me, something I knew very little about and was actually quite unprepared for what I was about to experience. I thought it was some kind of strange breathing meditation and didnt really give it much thought before I got there.

But then, like nothing I have experienced in my entire life I was blown away. This breathworks thing took me to a place I have never been before. I went to a place where codependents like me don’t often go – a place where my emotions reside. If you ask me where that place is – I can’t tell you. But it showed itself to me during the breathing session and somehow from nowhere I felt all the emotions I had denied myself for years with such great intensity.

Rob, ( Bubbles ) one of David’s assistants is a phenomenal being who guided me through this process and sat by my side through most of it, looking after me and holding my hand. It was a rollercoaster of an experience but I felt cleansed afterwards and feel different now, weeks later than I did before I attended.

images-1How do I feel different? I don’t know! I can’t say its a specific change, its just a shift, maybe that I can feel, somehow, feel my feelings, my emotions, which I had been too afraid to feel before. Whatever it has done, somethings moved and I now have some sense of wholeness – rather, a coming home to me. Its a long journey of recovery and a long journey home, way up to Manchester, but both journeys were worth it.

I urge you, if you are looking for a therapist who specialises in codependency you will not find anyone more equipped on this subject than David Parker and Breathwork will take you to another dimension you haven’t been before.

Much love Christine xxx

Coming OUT of Shallow Breathing into FULL SPEED AHEAD

1972351_261858887317309_799607384_nAs with many people who lie down to breathe for the first time, I was filled with a mix of scepticism and uncertainty about what was going to happen. Surely the simple act of breathing couldn’t bring about as strong a reaction as I had been promised? It was difficult not to feel a bit daft as I began to inhale deeply, taking in large amounts of oxygen, and then releasing only a third of my breath, leaving the remaining oxygen to flood my brain and body like water gradually filling a jug.

For about fifteen minutes I lay there, fighting against the urge to regulate my breathing which felt forced and unnatural. How was I going to last another three quarters of an hour breathing like this? Then something strange began to happen. It started slowly and then became more and more noticeable. A tingle in the finger-tips that spread up my arms and washed over my chest which somehow felt lighter and buoyed up, like a freshly inflated balloon. My breathing was also easier despite the fact I had not adjusted my rhythm. Was it actually happening to me; this strange and wonderful sensation that I had been told about but had doubted?

I lay there, excited for what was happening. Outside noises seemed to melt away and I was left completely inside my own body. It was as if my consciousness has retreated inside my brain, no longer aware of what existed beyond the shell of my own skin. It was dark and warm and felt safe. Occasionally, the darkness would be penetrated by a white light or a colour spectrum that seemed to whirl above me, forming shapes and even faces. It was a hugely multi-sensory experience that, when it was over, left me feeling calm and collected, as if I had slept particularly well and all my troubles seemed lessened thanks to how relaxed I found myself.

It was not until some time later, when I was given the chance to assist on someone else’s first breathe, that I was able to witness this ‘tipping point’ and observe how tangible it is. You can physically see the body’s initial resistance to the journey as it reacts against this strange way of breathing. Then as the time passes and breathing in this way becomes more natural and the body is flooded with oxygen and the consciousness begins to retreat in on itself, you can watch as the breather drifts off to a place where they are fully in touch with themselves – a place where you are able to get some perspective on your life and come back fresher and more able to tackle the crap life throws at you. And all from breathing – who’d have thought!

1002087_10152899205155371_2132921410_nWritten by Robert Beck.

https://urbanlifeclass.me/the-creative-collective/robert-beck/