Scott Buchan lives to tell the tale of regular Conscious Connected Breathwork, commitment and deserved results! Worked it.

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November 2010 in Brighton is where I first met David Parker, when he was speaking at a Convention I was attending. The Convention and his topic had nothing to do with breathwork but as time has passed, the link between then and now has become more obvious.

Our paths crossed a number of times in the next couple of years randomly bumping into each other here and there and we connected on social media. It was then I started to read David’s story and what he did/does regarding breathwork. I was nosey rather than curious and didn’t look too much further into it. In the autumn of 2013, my wife and I went to Malta where I had been asked to speak at one of them Conventions where I first met David and lo and behold, David was there. One of those ‘coincidences’.

We spent a lot of time in each other’s company in that week and I started to ask a few more questions about this thing he did. My interest had moved on from curiosity to intrigue and I started to think I wanted to know more and perhaps experience what it was this breathwork was all about.

emoji-56-512I had my own ‘issues’. I’ve been in recovery from active addiction since June 2009 with which I had been battling with for 30 years and I had a lot of consequences none more so than my physical state. I’ve been in a coma twice, I’d had a stroke, I’d had the Last Rites read over me, I’d had pancreatitis on a number of occasions, I’d broken near enough every bone in my body, my right lung had collapsed twice and this was before I got into recovery.

emoji-56-512Since getting clean of all drugs, including alcohol, I then had testicular cancer, I’d had a shoulder reconstruction and in 2014, I underwent 4 surgeries on my knees culminating in a full left knee replacement AND to add to the fun, I’d suffered a burst appendix in the summer of 2014 which I was lucky to survive.

emoji-56-512I had also put on a lot of weight as I had been unhappily comfort-eating and although I’m 6ft 5, I was within touch of 20 stone on the scales. I was also in and out of employment and hadn’t held down a regular job for years.

The experiences of 2014 were enough for me to want to change a few things. I needed a different way of seeing myself. My physical health (or lack of it) had become my identity. The first thing people would say to me was, “…and how’s the health, Scott?”

18581901_10155136311290498_8333475731833275017_n-1images-1I spoke to David once or twice around this time and he said about coming along to one of the seminars he was getting up and running in Victoria. I went along open-minded and with no expectation on what was going to happen.

It ended up being one of the most extraordinary moments in my life.

I still can’t explain exactly what happened but I had an ‘out of body’ experience during my first ever breathe. I cried like I hadn’t cried since I was a baby. I felt all this physical pain fill up inside me, overwhelm me and somehow drain from me. I curled up in a foetal ball, I shook, I sobbed, I made a hell of a noise and I was looked after tenderly by David and the team and I felt, without being too dramatic, reborn afterwards.

I left the seminar, got a train from Victoria to Clapham Junction then another train to Basingstoke and then a taxi home and it was only when I put the key in my front door I suddenly realised I was home! I’d done the whole journey in a trance and couldn’t recall a thing about it.

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My thinking DID change from that minute on. I decided my health was NOT going to be my identity. I looked at my diet. I looked at my exercise (or lack of it). I looked at my attitude. I looked at certain people, certain places and certain behaviours and I did a full-on spring clean. I didn’t fall out with people as much as I stopped falling in with them to begin with. I began to keep my counsel smaller and closer and started to look at what was important to me and what I wanted to achieve from my life.

images-1I became a regular ‘breather’ and I’ve been attending groups and seminars with David more or less monthly ever since that first experience. I travel all the way from Basingstoke Hampshire to London Camden and back for every session. It’s a 3 hour round trip on public transport, it’s the best part of £40 in fares and that doesn’t phase me in the slightest. Nor does the fact I get home at midnight and I’m up at 5.30 the following day for work.

The breathwork and the coaching sessions prior to breathing have become an integral part of my continuing recovery. I’ve learnt a lot about me, what makes me tick, what fires me up and acquired great techniques to deal with life and what can crop up for me on a regular basis.

3½ years on from that first breathwork experience, I am now in the best physical shape I’ve been in since I was at school. I’m down to a manageable 16½ stone, my diet is unrecognisable from a few years ago, I walk 30-40 miles a week, I’m all clear on every physical front and had a Well Man check a couple of months back and was told I had the physical attributes of someone 10 years younger than myself.

I’ve been in full time work since the summer of 2015 and this is the longest tenure I’ve had with one employer ever.

29356476_10156025644040498_8672189542205227008_nHowever, life comes along unexpectantly and I had a major accident last year when I was hit by a bus and I broke my pelvis and sacrum and was off work for almost 5 months. Albeit, I was in a lot of pain, I didn’t take any medication.

I stuck to the principles of my recovery programme and I used what I’d learned from David to work through not only the physical condition but through the emotional and mental effect this accident had on me. It would have been very easy to revert to self-pity and wallow in it all but none of that behaviour serves me anymore.

There has been further pro’s to the breathwork. Pro’s that are completely unexpected and quite random. I have to undergo regular gastroscopy due to my various conditions over the years and this used to be time of extreme anxiety event whereupon I had to be sedated and it was quite traumatic for a few days afterwards. I now find this procedure, although still very intrusive, nowhere like that today be and I can breathe right through it even when I get a gagging reflex. Given this is something I have to undergo regularly, the fact I can manage it with breathing techniques is an amazing turnaround.

images-1I’m also a good swimmer. I always have been BUT I’ve always struggled with snorkelling and the like as I could never get my head around breathing while underwater. I can swim underwater but not to observe and enjoy marine life.

During a boat trip in Thailand in 2016, I thought I’d put on a snorkel and found I actually could now breathe and without panicking. I could see the life beneath the waves and love this new-found thrill. Since then I’ve become more and more adept and snorkelling is something I enjoy on our regular jaunts overseas.

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I’m now back at work, I’ve recently been upgraded with a view to a promotion and I like my job. I like my life and I owe a substantial debt of gratitude to what David has taught me, shown me and helped me with over the past few years. 

Today, I’m very much more the me I always could be.

I’m a good husband, son, brother, friend, employee. I like me and that’s something I never thought I’d hear myself say. Thank you, David, for your continued help, support, encouragement and “…breeeeathe, Scott, breeeeathe!”

Let’s Get Clear on the Year! Sunday Breathwork Seminar January 14th 2018 / 11am – 7pm in Belgravia / Victoria, London.

It’s easy to polish off a few New Year’s Resolutions that mean well, but often they don’t manifest long enough to produce results, which is why joint efforts, either in group or 121 Coaching WORKS. URBAN LIFECLASS understands the perils of procrastination, perfectionism and being pissed off at failure. Not that we see lack of concentration, focus or the power of distractions as unworthy or unworkable.

IT ALL WORKS. You just need to see it differently.

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Traditionally JANUARY is Detox month after the Christmas and New Year Binge, which makes sense, but having NO PLAN or support structures makes no sense at all, if you tackle it on your own. Experience has proved that addressing codependent, compulsive or addictive behaviours ALONE is as dumb as thinking you are still in control of your life. On this Sunday Seminar we focus on reviewing & completing 2017 regarding all your relationships : work, personal and one with YOURSELF.

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People-pleasing, procrastination, creative block, blaming others, blaming yourself and getting nowhere fast can be corrected. Coming to one of our SUNDAY SEMINARS will also make you realise that weakness has nothing to do with it. Weakness is a myth. So is MONEY. “I can’t afford it” is common enough until you add up what you waste in a month. ADD IT UP. Get Clear on LAST YEAR.

Don’t repeat it NEXT YEAR.

Led by Professional Breathworkers David Parker and Luisa Bradshaw.

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Check out THE TEAM Page above on our experience

JOIN US at the very sensible time of 11am – 7pm perfect for late risers, out-of-towners and party peeps at our VENUE just a 5 min walk from VICTORIA STATION LONDON. http://www.lightcentrebelgravia.co.uk

WELCOME if you are new to Personal Development, Groupwork or Breathwork. We don’t do special languages, New Age stuff or talking sticks. Other groups do those things so much better than us. We are just a bunch of creative people willing to change habits, addictions and depleting toxic relationships from our lives. If you are new, one of our team can contact you if you wish to answer questions. We don’t sell anything, or sign anyone up, we leave the choice up to you. You don’t need to be Creative, just willing to check out your life and how you can change the impact of all your relationships.

10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_n£70 for the whole day including a GROUP REBIRTH SESSION. Some concessions are available and delayed/part payment will be individually considered.

BOOKING

Contact Robert Beck urbanlifeclass@gmail.com (+44) 7913862492 for payment options, not The Light Centre Belgravia. Paypal to codacoach@yahoo.co.uk

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One Day London Breathwork Seminar LOVE UNLIMITED @Angel N1 venue London. Sunday February 12th 2017 11am-7pm. #LOVEIN

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They say you can’t give away what you haven’t got. Expecting LOVE from others when you can’t give it to yourself, is like driving a car without lessons – straight to A&E with codependent concussion. WAKE UP! Don’t short change yourself.

r-887797-1169495706-jpegAs many of our participants know LOVING YOURSELF is an ongoing process, it only take a stare, a rejection or a criticism to send us back to square one. So it makes sense to keep a check on those coda characteristics that send us into a spin but thankfully that old adage FEELINGS AREN’T FACTS rings true and we realign.

During the day we will explore LOVING YOURSELF MORE  – in or out of a relationship, ROMANTIC TYRANNY and SERVING YOURSELF into spirituality, gifts to give yourself plus releasing people pleasing, projection and perfectionism. We will also be BREATHING to the music of Barry White, no tingly bells, waterfalls on this one, so get that karaoke voice in fine fettle. Become your own VALENTINE.

images-1At the end of the day we BREATHE together in a GROUP, experiencing EVOLUTIONARY ‘Conscious Connected’ BREATHWORK – alone with your breath, your fears, your strengths and any spiritual source you choose. Learn to create your path and walk it. Conscious Connected Breathwork  detoxes and releases long held trauma. YOU deserve to be renewed, refreshed and rebirthed. Check out testimonials and blogs on this site.

WELCOME too if you are new to Personal Development, Groupwork or Breathwork. We don’t do special languages, New Age stuff or talking sticks. Other groups do those things so much better than . We are just a bunch of creative people willing to change habits, addictions and depleting toxic relationships from our lives.

If you are new, one of our team can contact you if you wish to answer questions. We don’t sell anything, or sign anyone up, we leave the choice up to you. You don’t need to be Creative, just willing to check out your life and how you can change the impact of all your relationships.

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This Seminar is open to only 12 participants + assistants and trainer DAVID PARKER – 345 CITY ROAD LONDON EC1 1LR – ANGEL tube Northern Line BANK

10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_n£70 for the whole day 11am -7pm including a GROUP REBIRTH SESSION ( some bursary concessions are available for £50 if in financial difficulty) Delayed/part payment will be individually considered.

BOOKING : Contact Robert Beck urbanlifeclass@gmail.com (+44) 7913862492 for payment options or David Parker 020 7388 3109 Enquiries.

Our NEXT ONE DAY SEMINAR is Sunday 21st May 2017 – We also have 3 EVENING BREATHWORK GROUPS a MONTH at a different venue. Contact us to book.

Christine reviews our London One Day Seminar ‘Home Alone’.

11880350_10207426035507425_5702309674236068765_nDavid Parker has been my codependency-release therapist via SKYPE since February this year and without him I wouldn’t be where I am right now – a place called recovery. A place I had no awareness of before I met him.

At the point I contacted him I was lost, confused, emotionally numb and had been so beaten down mentally that to say my life had become unmanageable was a severe understatement. As the months passed by I built up a strong connection with this humble man who helped me to start to see some light through the intensity of the thorn bushes I was totally enmeshed in.

Despite being on my uppers and broke, I took the decision to travel to London from my hometown Manchester to attend his codependency workshop – ‘Home Alone’ – because of this strong bond I had built with him. All my sessions with David had previously been on Skype so I was so excited to meet him in person and I can only say it was a privilege and extreme pleasure to have the honour to be coached by him to this point and to attend this workshop for a full day.

The whole experience was incredible and professional. On the journey to the venue I was filled with excitement and on meeting him and his team it only confirmed to me even more that I won’t find a better equipped therapist on codependency than David. His knowledge is vast and his attitude, HUMBLE.

Plus his Urban LIFECLASS assistants are kind, on the ball, experienced and knowledgeable. I learnt a great deal on this workshop, about myself, about the others who attended and it helped me understand what I had been through and also that I am not the only one experiencing codependency issues that plague adult relationships.

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The last part of the day was the breath works session, it’s new to me, something I knew very little about and was actually quite unprepared for what I was about to experience. I thought it was some kind of strange breathing meditation and didnt really give it much thought before I got there.

But then, like nothing I have experienced in my entire life I was blown away. This breathworks thing took me to a place I have never been before. I went to a place where codependents like me don’t often go – a place where my emotions reside. If you ask me where that place is – I can’t tell you. But it showed itself to me during the breathing session and somehow from nowhere I felt all the emotions I had denied myself for years with such great intensity.

Rob, ( Bubbles ) one of David’s assistants is a phenomenal being who guided me through this process and sat by my side through most of it, looking after me and holding my hand. It was a rollercoaster of an experience but I felt cleansed afterwards and feel different now, weeks later than I did before I attended.

images-1How do I feel different? I don’t know! I can’t say its a specific change, its just a shift, maybe that I can feel, somehow, feel my feelings, my emotions, which I had been too afraid to feel before. Whatever it has done, somethings moved and I now have some sense of wholeness – rather, a coming home to me. Its a long journey of recovery and a long journey home, way up to Manchester, but both journeys were worth it.

I urge you, if you are looking for a therapist who specialises in codependency you will not find anyone more equipped on this subject than David Parker and Breathwork will take you to another dimension you haven’t been before.

Much love Christine xxx

NEW VENUE – One Day London Breathwork Seminar HOME ALONE @Angel N1 Sunday October 16th 2016. 11am-7pm

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Are you still an Adult latch-key kid? . . . feeling the pain of fending for yourself, being abandoned or as an adult abandoning yourself from success or serenity ? . . . . Being LEFT ALONE can bring up the ‘hebbie-jeebies’ for many, while others bathe in the freedom to do what the heck they like. Childhood games can create a blueprint for who you are in adult relationships, how you respond to anxiety, choices and being rescued from fear, and as many know, rescuing others is safer than rescuing yourself. Successful relationships depend on interdependence, quality time alone and appropriate boundaries.

6144808577_10578837cc_bThis One Day Seminar – in a new venue for us – 3 mins walk from Angel Tube – explores Loneliness, Aloneness, Isolation and being sane with Self. Left to our own devices what comes up? Do we naturally trust a process or do we codependently need to be in control, needing to know what’s going on? 

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Or do you constantly worry about someone else? Codependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. If you can’t help someones depression, for example, it’s easy to feel you are inadequate. If your partner needs ‘space’ does that plug you into inner criticism? Do you feel guilty if you leave a partner, or friends alone? 

travel-aloneDuring the day we will explore LOVING YOURSELF MORE and LOVING BEING ALONE – in or out of a relationship. At the end of the day we BREATHE together in a GROUP, experiencing EVOLUTIONARY ‘Conscious Connected’ BREATHWORK – alone with your breath, your fears, your strengths and any spiritual source you choose.  Learn to create your own path and walk it.

Conscious Connected Breathwork cleanses, detoxes and releases long held trauma. YOU deserve to be renewed, refreshed and rebirthed. Check out testimonials and blogs on this site.

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WELCOME if you are new to Personal Development, Groupwork or Breathwork. We don’t do special languages, New Age stuff or talking sticks. Other groups do those things so much better than us. We are just a bunch of creative people willing to change habits, addictions and depleting toxic relationships from our lives. If you are new, one of our team can contact you if you wish to answer questions. We don’t sell anything, or sign anyone up, we leave the choice up to you. You don’t need to be Creative, just willing to check out your life and how you can change the impact of all your relationships.

This Seminar is open to only 12 participants + assistants and trainer DAVID PARKER – 2000px-12_icon_B_(Hungary).svg345 CITY ROAD LONDON EC1 1LR  – ANGEL tube Northern Line BANK

10501688_302332539936610_6051405388470842940_n   £70 for the whole day  11am -7pm including a GROUP REBIRTH SESSION ( some concessions are available for £50 ) Delayed/part payment will be individually considered. BOOKING : Contact Robert Beck urbanlifeclass@gmail.com (+44) 7913862492 for payment options or David Parker 020 7388 3109 Enquiries. 

Our NEXT ONE DAY SEMINARS are Sunday 12th February and Sunday 21st May 2017 – We also have 3 EVENING BREATHWORK GROUPS a MONTH at a different venue.